My boyfriend and I recently started reading “Forgive for Good” by Dr. Fred Luskin. I immediately recognized the important lessons, and knew that forgiving was good for my mind, body and spirit – but I was understanding those things mentally and not spiritually. Then I had a horrific nightmare about a friend who is no longer with us – and she wanted to kill me. The day after the nightmare, and only a few chapters into “Forgive for Good,” I was meditating and all of a sudden I had a flood of faces and scenarios that showed up as long-standing grievances in my life. People and situations that I had felt betrayed by came flooding to the forefront and I realized that the forgiveness book was going to play much more intimately in my life. I had some major healing and forgiving to do. I felt the hurt of betrayals, mostly from women who I had considered my friends, and knew that shoving those really uncomfortable feelings of sadness, shame, guilt, and innocence into the closet was not good for me. I had to forgive, let go, face my fears, and move on as much as possible. I know that I am not alone in my need for Forgiveness, so I created this ritual to share. Be kind to yourself, be compassionate, open your heart and get the good healing.
PRE-RITUAL ENCOURAGEMENT: You may alter this in any way you please, change words or concepts to work for you. If you have never done a healing ritual for yourself, you can just follow the “instructions” and follow your heart, you can’t go wrong.
F O R G I V E N E S S R I T U A L
Find a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Get comfortable in a seated position, whether that is on a yoga mat, on a comfy pillow, or even a chair or couch, whatever feels good to you.
Light a candle. This represents the lightness of Love, the flame of the Heart, and Purity.
Close your eyes and imagine a rod of light running from the crown of your head all the way down your spine to the earth. Feel the energy of the earth coming up your spine. Imagine yourself growing roots into the ground and acknowledge the earthy pulse of all that you are connected to. You are supported. Imagine that energy, or rod of light, going up through the bottom of your spine (root chakra, survival), up through your pelvis (sexuality and creativity), your core (power center), up to your heart (compassion), throat chakra (communication), third eye (intuition) and out the crown of your head (cosmic consciousness). Imagine that rod of light going up into the stars, connecting you to the astral plane, to all that is. Take as long as you need with this process until you feel grounded, centered and open-hearted.
Start envisioning people or scenarios you have felt hurt by, or any sort of grievance that could heal with forgiveness. You can choose to only focus on one person or grievance, or many, it’s up to you. Imagine the face of the person you felt hurt by, and while keeping your heart open, say to them (in your mind) whatever you need to feel as complete as possible in this moment. Keep it simple and kind. Remember, you are forgiving for YOU, for YOUR HEALING. Acknowledge your part in the hurt or suffering. Offer as much forgiveness as you can to this person (remember, 10% forgiveness is more than 0%. 100% is incredibly awesome). Forgive yourself for your role in the grievance. Imagine the person in white and gold light and see your heart radiating love.
Read the Following or SAY OUT LOUD for best results:
I am Protected.
I forgive Myself.
I forgive ________.
I stand in Love and ask (The Universe, God/dess, Hanuman, you choose) for the Blessing of Divine Forgiveness.
And So it Is.
Light some palo santo or sage, blowing the smoke around the room and around yourself for cleansing and purity. Blow out the candle, or let it burn if you remain in the room. Thank yourself for taking time to Forgive.
Be good to yourself, forgiveness can be a process. You can repeat this ritual as often as necessary to continue with a forgiveness practice. If I get enough response from this ritual, maybe we can do a whole week of forgiveness magic! Thank you for taking time to read and take care of yourself. Please share this link!